But what should we think when each person turns their back on the other at bedtime? This position, often mistakenly perceived as distancing, is actually more nuanced than we think. In the vast majority of cases, it’s simply a personal preference linked to the need for space or better quality sleep.
Sleep expert Dr. Rebecca Robbins explains that everyone has their own “safe haven position” for resting. Sleeping back to back doesn’t necessarily mean there’s emotional distance, especially if this position has always been part of your routine as a couple.
A balance between connection and independence
According to psychologist Corinne Sweet, this position, called “liberty,” is actually a positive sign. It often reflects a healthy balance: partners feel confident enough to not need to be constantly glued to each other. In other words, intimacy is there, but it doesn’t need to be proven every moment.
Moreover, according to a study reported by The Huffington Post, nearly 28% of couples sleep this way. A figure that clearly shows that this choice is far from marginal or worrisome.
When should you pay attention?
That said, if you notice a sudden change—for example, a normally close partner who starts to pull away without explanation—it might be worth opening the dialogue. Not to be alarmed, but to understand whether they’re going through a stressful time, need more rest, or simply want some space.
The marital bed can also reflect the unspoken things of everyday life. Taking a few minutes to discuss them, without pressure or blame, can sometimes ease a lot of tension.
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